EMDR THERAPY OKC | ACROSS OKLAHOMA & TEXAS
Move On & Feel Better…For Good.
Something from your past is holding you back.
You tell yourself you’ve moved on, but when triggers arise, it feels like you’re right back where you started. Maybe traditional therapy has not worked for you. You’re still stuck, overwhelmed, disconnected, and weighed down by emotions or flashbacks. The emotional toll is exhausting, and it’s hard to fully show up in your life. You might replay messages from the past - things you’ve heard from caregivers or partners, etc. Over time, these messages shape how you see yourself and lower your self-worth.
“I am not good enough”
“I don’t deserve _____”
“I can’t protect myself”
“I am helpless”
Whether you know the source of your struggle or just sense that something is off, you feel the past is still holding you back. You’re ready to uncover the root of it so you can finally relax, enjoy life, and feel like yourself again.
Imagine being reminded of your trauma and not feeling disturbed at all.
With EMDR therapy, that’s possible.
EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) helps you process painful memories and the negative beliefs attached to them. Instead of staying stuck in loops of anxiety, shame, or despair, EMDR helps your brain do what it naturally wants to do - heal.
You don’t have to “talk about it” over and over.
You don’t need to force affirmations or willpower your way to self-worth.
EMDR helps you gently shift from:
“I’m helpless” → “I can handle this”
“It’s my fault” → “I did the best I could”
“I don’t matter” → “I am worthy of love and safety”
I use EMDR therapy to help with:
Traumatic events (big, small, single events or recurring)
Childhood trauma, emotional neglect, abandonment, or abuse
Grief and loss, including the traumatic death of a loved one
Performance anxiety
Relationship struggles, breakups, and healing from narcissistic abuse
Low self-esteem and confidence issues
Depression and emotional overwhelm
Guilt, shame, and unresolved regret
Chronic stress and emotional pressure
How EMDR Therapy Works
We’ll go through EMDR in a series of eight structured phases:
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Understanding your background and identifying which memories to target.
We’ll identify memories that are currently causing you emotional distress. These could be related to past traumas, upsetting events, or negative experiences that seem to impact your daily life.
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Building trust, discussing the process, and ensuring you feel grounded.
I will teach you self-regulation/relaxation techniques so you can deal with any emotional disturbance that may arise.
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Identifying specific aspects of the memory, including emotions, negative beliefs, and physical sensations.
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To support processing, I’ll use bilateral stimulation—like eye movements, tapping, or alternating sounds—which activates both sides of the brain. This helps your brain naturally work through distressing memories, similar to what happens during REM sleep.
As we focus on a specific memory, the emotional charge begins to shift. Over time, that memory becomes less triggering, and you’re able to think about it with more distance and less distress.
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Once the distress is reduced, we’ll work on installing positive beliefs to replace the negative ones associated with the memories. This step encourages a shift in perspective, helping you view yourself and the experience in a more balanced, empowering way.
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Noticing and releasing any residual physical tension.
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We’ll end each session by making sure you feel grounded and stable. I’ll guide you on what to expect between sessions, how to use journaling to track your experiences, and which calming techniques can help you self-soothe between appointments.
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Reviewing progress and planning for future sessions.
Potential Immediate Benefits of EMDR Therapy
Reduction in Distress
After an EMDR session, you may notice a significant reduction in the intensity of traumatic memories, making them feel more manageable.
Decreased Physical Tension
Physical tension tied to trauma may lessen as EMDR helps release emotional blockages.
Empowerment
As you confront and heal past trauma, you may feel a sense of empowerment and increased confidence.
Feeling Lighter or Calmer
You might feel a sense of calm or lightness as intense emotions are processed and released, helping you feel grounded.
Improved Sleep
If trauma has impacted your sleep, you might notice better sleep quality and fewer nightmares.
Increased Clarity
EMDR often brings new clarity and understanding about your past, helping you make sense of your experiences in a freeing and affirming way.
Shift in Perspective
EMDR can shift how you view past trauma, allowing you to approach it with more compassion and less fear or blame.
Enhanced Emotional Regulation
EMDR helps you better manage emotions, making it easier to respond calmly to situations that once triggered intense feelings.
Your past doesn’t define you.
Release painful memories, make room for peace.
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Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) is an evidence-based psychotherapy that helps people heal from trauma and distressing memories. It uses bilateral stimulation (alternating eye movements, sounds, or taps) to facilitate the brain's natural healing process, reprocessing traumatic memories and reducing emotional distress.
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Yes, online EMDR therapy follows the same principles as in-person sessions but is conducted through a secure video platform. During our session, I’ll guide you through the same phases of EMDR, including memory processing, using bilateral stimulation. Instead of hand movements, I use specialized online tools, such as visual cues and auditory tones, to replicate the alternating stimulation that helps desensitize and reprocess distressing memories.
I can show you how it works during our video consultation, so you feel comfortable before we begin.
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Memory reprocessing doesn’t begin right away. EMDR follows a phased approach to ensure safety and readiness. Once we’ve completed the history-taking, preparation, and assessment phases and you feel ready, we’ll begin memory reprocessing (Phase 4) using bilateral stimulation to reduce emotional distress.
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In my experience, clients usually feel a temporary increase in emotional disturbance as painful memories begin to surface but this usually subsides as the brain continues to process. Most people begin to feel relief, clarity, and lightness as sessions progress.
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The time it takes to reprocess one memory can vary depending on factors like the memory’s complexity, emotional intensity, and your readiness. Reprocessing one memory typically takes 45 to 90 minutes. While one memory can often be processed in a single session, more complex and intense memory may require multiple sessions to fully address.
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One of the benefits of EMDR is that it doesn’t require you to go into detailed descriptions of the trauma, unlike traditional talk therapy where the therapist and client discuss the traumatic event in depth.
During EMDR, we limit verbal processing between sets to allow your brain to do its natural work. We’ll talk about your experience and insights after the memory reprocessing, and you’re always in control of what you choose to share.
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During EMDR memory reprocessing, you’ll focus on a distressing memory while using bilateral stimulation (eye movements, sounds, or tapping) to help your brain process it. You may feel strong emotions or sensations, but these usually ease as the session continues. Most clients feel relief and new insight afterward. I’ll guide the process at a pace that feels safe and supportive for you.
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